Tag: Manhood

See Opportunities And Seize Them

Anoint your eyes, and you will see opportunities to express Godly manhood all around you.

 

Consider Christ’s own example, which defines biblical manhood. Here is His perspective: “I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night cometh, when no man can work” (John 9:4). Christ’s life was short, limited in duration. He was urgent about taking full advantage of every moment and every interaction.

 

This is the unselfish attitude Godly men must have: a vigilant urgency to take action and to work at serving others. You have to pay attention to other people’s lives, and act on what you see and know.

 

You may look at tomorrow as just another routine day: Snag breakfast, endure the workday, unwind at home, watch a show, go to sleep. But Christ in you looks at tomorrow as a deluge of opportunities: What can I do? Who can I help? How much can I give?

 

Don’t underestimate the potential value of every decision, every encounter, every conversation you have. Recognize opportunities to give for what they are. You’ll probably have one as soon as you finish reading this.

 

To follow Christ’s example and seize that opportunity, you must fight the pull of selfishness and relaxation, and keep your eyes open to opportunities to fulfill your duties as a man!

 

The question is not whether you have a duty to serve others more than yourself. The question is whether you will fulfill your duty. The more you do, the more God-like you will become, and the more habitual this Christ-like attitude will be. The more Christ-like you become, and the more masculine you become.

 

Many of us intellectually understand and agree with the concept of male Christian leadership. But the harder step is to encounter a day-to-day routine occurrence and actively recognize: I need to use this moment right now to express Godly manhood! The same applies to females who want to fully utilize and express Godly womanhood.

 

It is easy to overlook those opportunities. It is also easy to underestimate the effect that YOU, reading these words right now, can have on other people’s lives. 

 

Correcting the matter starts with anointing your eyes. Ask God to show you how to develop into a more dynamic and effective Christian leader.

 

A torrent of opportunities is coming at you. Helping your son with his math homework, approving your daughter’s new dress before she wears it, setting a household rule to unburden your girlfriend or wife, helping your neighbor fix his porch step, knocking out the reports nobody else wants to do at work, holding the door open for the mother of two children at the gas station, skipping the pro football game to visit an elderly member in your congregation, putting your phone away so you’re not distracted when playing with your children, noting something troubling in your teenager’s voice inflection and asking him or her about it, setting rules so dinner time can be quality family time, choosing a topic to lead in conversation after Church services. The deluge of opportunity never ends. And Christ wants to empower you to fulfill those opportunities.

 

But before He can do so, you must be diligent enough to spot them for what they are.

 

Manhood is a Weapon of Righteousness

Godly manhood is a weapon to destroy selfishness and to eradicate the wrong thinking, the wishy-washy perspectives, and the inward focus of modern manhood.

 

The office of a Godly man shapes you. You can’t shy away from it: You were born for it! God wants to use it to help you grow, not just into a Christian leader, but into a born Son of God! You must strive together with God, allowing Him to forge you into the man He needs you to be.

 

This is the path to manliness, to nobility, to accomplishment, and to genuine satisfaction. This is the road that leads your family from disorder to harmony, and from darkness into light. It gives your significant other security, stability, contentment, and peace of mind. It gives your children a window into Godliness, a blueprint for achievement and success. This is the route that leads to a shining place of honor in the eternal Family of God and within your household.

 

So embrace your God-given destiny!

What True Masculinity Looks Like

God’s truth cuts through all of society’s confusion about masculinity and manhood. In His eyes, true masculinity is the evidence you see in the words and deeds of a man, the embracing of his God-given role and his destiny as a man. In doing so, he is taking on the character and divine nature of God the Father and Jesus Christ.

 

A masculine man sets his mind to attain the strong qualities of sound character, rock-solid confidence, and strength. He is an unselfish, stable, dominant (though not domineering), decisive leader. Yet he is balanced and tempered by the complementary traits of humility, attentiveness, gentleness, and refinement. In short, he strives to live as Jesus Christ did.

 

How can you recognize a truly masculine man?

 

A positive, upbeat outlook is the first thing you notice. True masculinity starts in the mind. The masculine man has a “can do” attitude and is eager to accept challenges and responsibility. He is a man of balance. He is not egotistical or arrogant, but rather has proper humility, recognizing his own limitations and his deep need for God (Isaiah 64:6; John 15:5). However, he doesn’t put himself down or worry about what others think of him. He allows God to use and develop his talents and abilities for their best use. He doesn’t covet others’ belongings, nor judge his own worth by comparing himself against others (2 Corinthians 10:12).

 

His life clearly centers on God. He shows the mindset and demeanor of a man who is in effective daily contact with God through prayer and Bible study. Though content with his station in life (Philippians 4:11), he has real drive and ambition, not because he craves personal aggrandizement, but because he wants to help and serve others, to fulfill his God-given potential, and to bring God all the glory. He radiates proper confidence, even boldness, knowing he “can do all things through Christ” (verse 13; Proverbs 28:1). This understanding, tempered by experience, drives out unmanly feelings of inferiority and fear.

 

The masculine man is a man of conviction. He uses common sense and good judgment. He aims to make his decisions based on truth and rightness rather than on others’ opinions, or on taking the easy road. He strives to practice what he preaches, to eliminate hypocrisy and to embody sincerity. He doesn’t compromise his principles. He accepts correction gracefully and is not destroyed by criticism. He doesn’t snap under stress and pressure. Putting his trust in God, he is able to navigate the storms of life with inner strength, stability, and peace. He faces challenges head on, and alert to opportunities.

 

The masculine man is master of his body. He maintains vigor, vitality, and good health. He tempers his appetites, gets proper exercise, and is careful to get good rest. He has the self-control to abstain from drunkenness, premarital sex, illicit drug use, and other vices that may tempt him.

 

He is also unafraid to show emotion (John 11:35). He feels and expresses both joy and pain, yet controls his temper. He is an understanding man, skilled in the art of tact and diplomacy. He is attentive to women and children.

 

The truly masculine man draws other people to him. People sense that he is different, and recognize a winning attitude of right leadership. He demonstrates self-respect, as well as respect for others. He appreciates the role of women. At the same time, he takes charge when necessary, properly using authority in a Godly manner. He is a blessing to his wife and children, providing security, attentive engagement, successful leadership, firm guidance, emotional stability, and real love. He inspires esteem from other men and respect from women, providing an example they can look to. His masculine authority, balanced with sensitivity, makes him attractive. When a woman recognizes that a man has her best interests at heart and will consider her needs in his decision-making, she will gladly follow him. She appreciates and is inspired by his positive confidence along with his concern for her and for others.

 

Such a man is truly a benefit and a blessing to those around him. This is the kind of masculinity the world needs more of.

 

The truly exciting thing about such masculinity is its spiritual dimension. Study the jobs that God has spelled out for men: protector of women and children; provider for families; husband; father; leader; head. Consider the responsibilities and qualities God commissions in men: supporting those who are weaker; using strength for others’ benefit; supplying a family’s needs and wants; sacrificing for the good of the family and others; loving a woman through firm, compassionate leadership; expanding the family with children and then bringing them up; educating them, leading them in the way they should go, helping them grow in character; building society. All of these point in inspiring ways to Jesus Christ and God the Father! They have spectacular spiritual parallels. As you study them and fulfill them, you build a spiritual mindset that brings you in closer harmony with God. Manliness is next to godliness (just as, for a woman, femininity is next to godliness).

 

The more you fulfill your purpose as a man, the more masculine you become. That is Godly masculinity.

 

How to Study this Topic

To fulfill any job, you must be educated in your responsibilities. The more challenging the job, the more effort you need to devote to that education, typically on an ongoing basis, continually striving to get better.

 

This is absolutely true of your job as a man and perhaps the most challenging job God gives you! You hold the office of a Christian man, the office of a friend, the office of a boyfriend or husband, the office of a father, even those of brother and son. Do you know what God expects you to do with that position? Whether or not you study it, you are responsible for fulfilling it!

 

Because of the inescapable spirit of this age, you may not feel like studying Godly manhood. Nevertheless, biblical manhood is a subject every man needs to study. Satan has ravaged manhood to the point that each of us is in danger of losing it! But God still offers you this truth!

 

If you don’t find yourself excited about it, study it anyway. Because God is excited about it. Study it and He will give you His excitement! It will even excite you lady’s as you come to understand true Godly manhood and furthermore shaping, reshaping, and/or setting that Biblical standard in your relationships of the male population (family, friends, and the most important: your life partner).

 

The things written here is an excellent start. It can kindle or stoke the fire in you. You will receive great joy and pleasure from it. You will want to consult it regularly for inspiration, guidance, correction, and precious truths on what manhood really means.

 

The information in the following posts will be organized into seven sections, built around seven distinct roles God intends a man to fulfill. Each section contains several chapters detailing specific aspects of each role. A number of short biographies are interspersed throughout of great men in the Bible who exemplified aspects of manhood worthy of aspiration and emulation.

 

You will gain a lot by reading this entire category from beginning to end; however, each post contributing to the chapters and mini-biography stands alone. Study the Table of Contents and feel free to jump to any portion that speaks to a challenge you face at the moment. If you are having trouble connecting with your teenage daughter, for example, you might want to go straight to “Be Your Daughter’s Hero.” If you are married to a woman with whom you are at odds because of your religion, read the up coming “Lead Her Spiritually,” and pay particular attention to the material after the subhead “When You Are Not Her Spiritual Head.”

 

As you study this subject of manhood and grow in understanding, it is crucial that you resist any tendency to grow discouraged. Yesterday’s mistakes are past. Have a positive approach to what God can do with you today and tomorrow. Always view those areas where you can improve as opportunities. Nourish a vision of the man God wants to help you become. Allow that vision to stir a fire within your heart, a flame of resolve, a determination to become a better man. What matters is growth “steady improvement,” however slow, however incremental. The more progress you make, the greater rewards you will reap, the more personal satisfaction you will gain, and the greater blessing you will be to all the people around you.

 

Men, we must allow God to shape us, to forge us into instruments strong enough to lead strong families, to give confidence to women, to give stability to children, and to give solidity to society.

 

This is what God wants. This is how we were created. This is literally what we were born to do: to grow up, achieve, mature, and embrace the role that our masculine minds and bodies were designed for.

 

This is the elusive solution, hiding in plain sight if your is Bible is already open; to our manless society. It’s not about getting back to the traditions of yesteryear. It’s about embracing how we were created. Discover that, live that, and you will be embarking on a life full of growth, challenge, fulfillment, and happiness built on knowing what it really means to be a man.

The Path to True Manhood

Feminists say they want equality for women. But in how they approach equality; how many of them actually want weak men? No woman applauds a man for being addicted to video games and pornography. What is honorable and worthy of admiration is the man with self-mastery, who refrains from being entrapped by such sins. We yearn for the man with self-control, with temperance, and with strong moral character.

 

A strong man is a blessing to his wife and children. He provides more than money; he provides security, attentive engagement, successful leadership, firm guidance, emotional stability, and real love defined by God.

 

Society, often without realizing it, cries out for masculinity of substance: strong character, untarnished fidelity, exemplary behavior, and empathetic yet decisive leadership. Deep down, we yearn for men with spines.

 

Society still appreciates such men, yet it teaches and pressures males to do the opposite. To grow into a real man, you must be strong enough to follow a different path.

 

Where is that path? How do you walk it? What is true masculinity? By now it should be clear that you aren’t going to find the answer on cable television, the news media, bookstores, legislatures, or universities. To know what manhood really should be, you need to look into the Holy Bible and consult the Creator of manhood.

 

Learn God’s definition of manhood. Learn your God-given duties. Understand what masculinity truly is. It’s a definition that does not change from day to day, from year to year, or even from generation to generation. It’s everything a Godly man is and everything a God woman needs in a man after God’s own heart.

 

You are living in a society that has launched a revolution and successfully overthrown biblical manhood. Most men have joined in or allowed themselves to be silently led along. You now have a choice: Will you be different? Will you live your life as a man according to the pressures of society or according to the clear commands of God?

 

Your job as a man is perhaps the most challenging job God gives you! The Bible shows that you hold an office: the office of a son, the office of a brother, the office of a husband, the office of a father, the office of a man.

 

Any man who wants to live up to God’s definition of manhood has real work to do. He must devote his energies to swimming upstream against society. He must make it his unwavering aim to grow (against pressure) in those qualities that will arm him for the rigors of true manhood. He must eschew the pastimes that weaken men. He must avoid the addictions that eat away at men’s minds, blacken their consciences and destroy their confidence. He must stoke the flames of ambition in his life. He must aim high and equip himself to become an able leader of a strong, capable woman, and a builder of family and society.

 

If you want to be one of those men, the study category here in “Manhood in the Bible” will help you in this noble, invigorating process.

 

When Father Is Not Around

Feminists applaud the breakdown of long held traditions in male and female relations. But look what has taken their place: academically and financially thriving women with no one to marry, juvenile men huddling in caves of self-indulgence, and children who think this is normal and then grow up and break down their relationships even further. Is this what feminists want?

The loss of breadwinning men in favor of perpetual adolescents has produced a swarm of other problems that result when men disengage from family and from society. Yes, women are succeeding financially and professionally but families are fragmenting, and society is morally and spiritually disintegrating.

The role of fathers has shrunk dramatically. More and more children are growing up without fathers at all. And the science is in: Fatherlessness causes severe problems both short terms and long terms. Nearly half of children who live with their single mother live in poverty. Children who have limited interaction with fathers have higher rates of behavioral problems; these show up as early as age 1. Children without a positive father relationship are more negative about school and their teachers.

Fatherless boys are far more likely to commit crime, take illegal drugs, smoke cigarettes, and abuse alcohol. Males with an absentee father are nearly three times likelier to carry a gun and engage in drug deals than those who have a father at home. Fatherless girls are much more likely to fornicate; teenage pregnancy for girls who grow up without a father is four times higher than among those with a father in the home. And fatherless girls who marry are far likelier to file for divorce as adults.

Today, about 40 percent of all 18-and-under children in America (27 million kids) do not live with their biological fathers! Yet few Americans are upset about it; many would even argue that society is better off with a diminishing father’s role and children growing up in single-parent homes!

Anyone who looks at these real-world results and applauds them is insane. Anyone assessing them honestly sees that this revolution has been a disaster. The loss of strong manliness is a plague on our society.

Believe it or not, this exact calamity was prophesied in your Bible, thousands of years ago. The devil understands the law of cause and effect when a society does away with the right kind of father and or father figure. Who’s to blame? Certainly it is the devil, but it’s also the ungodly men whom the world is full of.

Perhaps Just a Relic?

For thousands of years, men have been providers: providers of defense, security, shelter, food, and the means for other heavy necessities of life for women, who themselves provided the finer necessities of the relationship. As pioneering, farming, and other occupations gave way to wage-earning jobs, men did the smithing, ranching, mining, felling, milling, building, clerking, and other work outside the home that is the work of providers. This integral role in life propelled males through their childhoods, their educations, their careers, and their lives.

 

Now, this model is literally mocked. Two-income families are now the norm, with neither husband nor wife fulfilling their historic role. Feminists encourage women to stand on their own, shunning dependency on men and becoming laborers, wage-earners, managers, executives, and even soldiers.

 

Women have proven to be spectacularly capable, and men have gotten the clear message, You are no longer needed. 

 

It’s a proven, demonstrable aftereffect: In areas where they compete, women’s success tends to discourage a huge majority of men. You can attribute this to false sense of chauvinism, sexist indoctrination or whatever you would like, but it is real, and it is powerful. Once men see women providing for themselves, they lose interest in doing so. This effect is apparent throughout the workforce. As women enter a profession, men lose interest in it. Thus, men are abandoning more and more jobs, and women are rushing in even faster to fill the void. Women’s options for employment keep expanding as men surrender them.

 

The upshot of all this is “the emergence of an American matriarchy, where the younger men especially are unmoored, and closer than at any other time in history to being obsolete, at least by most traditional measures of social utility. And the women are left picking up the pieces” (Hanna Rosin, The End of Men).

 

Unmoored. Obsolete. These are painfully accurate terms for far too many of today’s aimless, indifferent men. This is the void that now exists where the sense of duty to provide used to be.

 

This is what happens when you throw out “all the old ways” without even asking where they came from, whether they had validity, or what might take their place. This is what happens when you cut society from its moorings. But there is more.