Tag: Christian

Report for Duty

As a Christian father, you must remain alert as long as your children are under your authority. Even after they leave the home, you may still be able to, and should, exert regular positive influence, even with your grandchildren (Deuteronomy 4:9).

 

As for you single’s, you are training for that duty right now by 1. learning to pay attention to others, 2. by learning how to treat women and children with honor, 3. by dating honorably and learning to be attentive to the needs of single ladies, 4. by striving to serve the widows (elders) and the fatherless (elders). These responsibilities also remain after you marry. Remember open your eyes by anointing them.

 

In your conversations, look for needs. Ask about things you can help with or you can find someone else to help with. Find things you can pray about. Pay attention!

 

Here is a specific example of masculine leadership that arises regularly in a family: telling your children what to do. An engaged Christian father regularly issues instructions as he actively directs his children to do things that will benefit them and others. But it only starts there.

 

Once you tell your child to do something, you must then pay attention to the child’s attitude toward that instruction, and then to his or her performance. You cannot simply give an instruction, return to what you were doing and forget what you said. Children, particularly if untrained, will often test the limits of your authority. If you give some direction and then return your full attention to what you were doing before, you are training your child not to be overly concerned about your commands. The child you just told to stop racing his car on the coffee table will go right back to it.

 

Once you give a command, remain on duty. Ensure the child follows through. This must be the case at home, in public, at Church services, everywhere. You simply cannot expect good results if you lose track of what you have instructed your child to do and fail to make sure the lesson sticks.

 

The duties of a man are constant. They require vigilance. They require you to work the works of Him that sent you, while you can. Be urgent. Recognize the onrushing river of opportunities for what it is. Seize each one and let God’s influence come into other people’s lives through you. Express dynamic male leadership. Put Godly manhood into action!

 

God can do so much in your life through your manly role. He can make your home life enriching and wonderful. He can grant you a promotion at work. He can add purpose, spark, and joy to the lives of the people around you. He can cause your girlfriend or wife to blossom emotionally, intellectually, spiritually. He can nourish your children or grandchildren into joyful, wise, and enjoyable young people. He can make you a different man, your family a different family, and your work a different work!

 

But you must anoint your eyes. See where God wants to lead you, what He wants to make of you, and how He wants to bless others through you!

 

See Opportunities And Seize Them

Anoint your eyes, and you will see opportunities to express Godly manhood all around you.

 

Consider Christ’s own example, which defines biblical manhood. Here is His perspective: “I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night cometh, when no man can work” (John 9:4). Christ’s life was short, limited in duration. He was urgent about taking full advantage of every moment and every interaction.

 

This is the unselfish attitude Godly men must have: a vigilant urgency to take action and to work at serving others. You have to pay attention to other people’s lives, and act on what you see and know.

 

You may look at tomorrow as just another routine day: Snag breakfast, endure the workday, unwind at home, watch a show, go to sleep. But Christ in you looks at tomorrow as a deluge of opportunities: What can I do? Who can I help? How much can I give?

 

Don’t underestimate the potential value of every decision, every encounter, every conversation you have. Recognize opportunities to give for what they are. You’ll probably have one as soon as you finish reading this.

 

To follow Christ’s example and seize that opportunity, you must fight the pull of selfishness and relaxation, and keep your eyes open to opportunities to fulfill your duties as a man!

 

The question is not whether you have a duty to serve others more than yourself. The question is whether you will fulfill your duty. The more you do, the more God-like you will become, and the more habitual this Christ-like attitude will be. The more Christ-like you become, and the more masculine you become.

 

Many of us intellectually understand and agree with the concept of male Christian leadership. But the harder step is to encounter a day-to-day routine occurrence and actively recognize: I need to use this moment right now to express Godly manhood! The same applies to females who want to fully utilize and express Godly womanhood.

 

It is easy to overlook those opportunities. It is also easy to underestimate the effect that YOU, reading these words right now, can have on other people’s lives. 

 

Correcting the matter starts with anointing your eyes. Ask God to show you how to develop into a more dynamic and effective Christian leader.

 

A torrent of opportunities is coming at you. Helping your son with his math homework, approving your daughter’s new dress before she wears it, setting a household rule to unburden your girlfriend or wife, helping your neighbor fix his porch step, knocking out the reports nobody else wants to do at work, holding the door open for the mother of two children at the gas station, skipping the pro football game to visit an elderly member in your congregation, putting your phone away so you’re not distracted when playing with your children, noting something troubling in your teenager’s voice inflection and asking him or her about it, setting rules so dinner time can be quality family time, choosing a topic to lead in conversation after Church services. The deluge of opportunity never ends. And Christ wants to empower you to fulfill those opportunities.

 

But before He can do so, you must be diligent enough to spot them for what they are.

 

Manhood is a Weapon of Righteousness

Godly manhood is a weapon to destroy selfishness and to eradicate the wrong thinking, the wishy-washy perspectives, and the inward focus of modern manhood.

 

The office of a Godly man shapes you. You can’t shy away from it: You were born for it! God wants to use it to help you grow, not just into a Christian leader, but into a born Son of God! You must strive together with God, allowing Him to forge you into the man He needs you to be.

 

This is the path to manliness, to nobility, to accomplishment, and to genuine satisfaction. This is the road that leads your family from disorder to harmony, and from darkness into light. It gives your significant other security, stability, contentment, and peace of mind. It gives your children a window into Godliness, a blueprint for achievement and success. This is the route that leads to a shining place of honor in the eternal Family of God and within your household.

 

So embrace your God-given destiny!