What True Masculinity Looks Like

God’s truth cuts through all of society’s confusion about masculinity and manhood. In His eyes, true masculinity is the evidence you see in the words and deeds of a man, the embracing of his God-given role and his destiny as a man. In doing so, he is taking on the character and divine nature of God the Father and Jesus Christ.

 

A masculine man sets his mind to attain the strong qualities of sound character, rock-solid confidence, and strength. He is an unselfish, stable, dominant (though not domineering), decisive leader. Yet he is balanced and tempered by the complementary traits of humility, attentiveness, gentleness, and refinement. In short, he strives to live as Jesus Christ did.

 

How can you recognize a truly masculine man?

 

A positive, upbeat outlook is the first thing you notice. True masculinity starts in the mind. The masculine man has a “can do” attitude and is eager to accept challenges and responsibility. He is a man of balance. He is not egotistical or arrogant, but rather has proper humility, recognizing his own limitations and his deep need for God (Isaiah 64:6; John 15:5). However, he doesn’t put himself down or worry about what others think of him. He allows God to use and develop his talents and abilities for their best use. He doesn’t covet others’ belongings, nor judge his own worth by comparing himself against others (2 Corinthians 10:12).

 

His life clearly centers on God. He shows the mindset and demeanor of a man who is in effective daily contact with God through prayer and Bible study. Though content with his station in life (Philippians 4:11), he has real drive and ambition, not because he craves personal aggrandizement, but because he wants to help and serve others, to fulfill his God-given potential, and to bring God all the glory. He radiates proper confidence, even boldness, knowing he “can do all things through Christ” (verse 13; Proverbs 28:1). This understanding, tempered by experience, drives out unmanly feelings of inferiority and fear.

 

The masculine man is a man of conviction. He uses common sense and good judgment. He aims to make his decisions based on truth and rightness rather than on others’ opinions, or on taking the easy road. He strives to practice what he preaches, to eliminate hypocrisy and to embody sincerity. He doesn’t compromise his principles. He accepts correction gracefully and is not destroyed by criticism. He doesn’t snap under stress and pressure. Putting his trust in God, he is able to navigate the storms of life with inner strength, stability, and peace. He faces challenges head on, and alert to opportunities.

 

The masculine man is master of his body. He maintains vigor, vitality, and good health. He tempers his appetites, gets proper exercise, and is careful to get good rest. He has the self-control to abstain from drunkenness, premarital sex, illicit drug use, and other vices that may tempt him.

 

He is also unafraid to show emotion (John 11:35). He feels and expresses both joy and pain, yet controls his temper. He is an understanding man, skilled in the art of tact and diplomacy. He is attentive to women and children.

 

The truly masculine man draws other people to him. People sense that he is different, and recognize a winning attitude of right leadership. He demonstrates self-respect, as well as respect for others. He appreciates the role of women. At the same time, he takes charge when necessary, properly using authority in a Godly manner. He is a blessing to his wife and children, providing security, attentive engagement, successful leadership, firm guidance, emotional stability, and real love. He inspires esteem from other men and respect from women, providing an example they can look to. His masculine authority, balanced with sensitivity, makes him attractive. When a woman recognizes that a man has her best interests at heart and will consider her needs in his decision-making, she will gladly follow him. She appreciates and is inspired by his positive confidence along with his concern for her and for others.

 

Such a man is truly a benefit and a blessing to those around him. This is the kind of masculinity the world needs more of.

 

The truly exciting thing about such masculinity is its spiritual dimension. Study the jobs that God has spelled out for men: protector of women and children; provider for families; husband; father; leader; head. Consider the responsibilities and qualities God commissions in men: supporting those who are weaker; using strength for others’ benefit; supplying a family’s needs and wants; sacrificing for the good of the family and others; loving a woman through firm, compassionate leadership; expanding the family with children and then bringing them up; educating them, leading them in the way they should go, helping them grow in character; building society. All of these point in inspiring ways to Jesus Christ and God the Father! They have spectacular spiritual parallels. As you study them and fulfill them, you build a spiritual mindset that brings you in closer harmony with God. Manliness is next to godliness (just as, for a woman, femininity is next to godliness).

 

The more you fulfill your purpose as a man, the more masculine you become. That is Godly masculinity.

 

What the Bible Teaches

The laws of God provide the path to happy living. Departing from them is what leaves us in a dark, confused thicket.

 

The Bible defines sin as the transgression of God’s law (1 John 3:4). His law simply codifies His way of life, which is love (Matthew 22:36-22:40; Romans 13:10; Galatians 5:14; 1 John 5:3). It means outgoing concern, giving and sharing, kindness and courtesy, putting the needs of another above your own. God’s way of life is the way of give.

 

The prevailing spirit of today’s society full of self indulgence, lust, greed, materialism, excess, deceit, cheating, and pride is the way of get, the way of sin. It is also the way of human nature, the way that comes naturally (e.g. Mark 7:21-7:23; Romans 8:7-8:8). God helps us overcome this natural tendency, develop righteous character, and live His way of love that produces happiness, joy, and peace.

 

One of the most powerful tools God created in order to teach us that way is family. A man learns that noble, wonderful way by absorbing himself in his God-given role within the family.

 

The Bible clearly states that God created humankind male and female (Genesis 1:26-1:27). God is the source of everything that makes men, men; and women, women. He designed the differences in physique, in emotions, in intellectual and psychological composition. He is the author of masculinity and femininity.

 

But why? Even those who claim to get their religion from the Bible, can they explain Genesis 1:27? Why did God create sex?

 

Collate all the observable and scriptural evidence, and you can clearly see that God created these differences to establish order and structure, especially within the family. “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God” (1 Corinthians 11:3). Non-Bible believers scoff at this scripture. “Christians” who don’t like it find ways to make it mean something else. But godly men and women see both the simple physical logic and the simplicity that is in Christ “Spiritual logic,” and beauty in it.

 

This is getting at the heart of true manhood and womanhood.

 

For the sake of order and organization, God created men to fulfill one set of responsibilities within the family and within society, and He created women to fill a different and beautifully complementary set of responsibilities.

 

The Bible shows that men and women, of themselves, are incomplete. After creating Adam, God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Genesis 2:18). So He made Eve, literally from Adam’s rib (verses 21-22). “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman [Hebrew, ishshah], because she was taken out of Man [Hebrew, ish]” (verse 23). Ish is the Hebrew root word for ishshah, just as man is the root for woman. The woman’s very name and original existence came out of the man as purposefully designed by God. Man and woman became “one flesh” through marriage (verse 24). God appointed the man as head of the wife (Ephesians 5:23). The woman was to be his helper, his assistant (Genesis 2:20).

 

This is the reality that God created and revealed to humankind. It is a vital key to individual, family, and societal success! Understanding and wholeheartedly embracing God’s roles for men and women brings satisfaction and fulfillment in all your most important relationships: friends, dating, marriage, family. It brings peace to your home and success to your relationships with women.

 

Are you willing to honestly evaluate yourself and your own attitudes? Are you prepared to discard wrong ideas? Will you accept truth, even when it hurts? It strains the eyes to step from a dark cave into bright sunlight, but “God is light, and in him is no darkness at all” (read 1 John 1:4-1:9).

What Creation Teaches

Before you even begin to examine the Bible’s instruction on manhood, consider what you can learn from creation itself.

 

Not all that long ago, before current conveniences came along, regular, daily life required toughness, stamina and muscle. Hunting wasn’t a sport; it was the equivalent of a grocery-store run. Naturally, the more strenuous work went to those who were taller, heavier and stronger: that is, men. The man’s native capacities for greater strength, speed, and endurance made him the logical choice for building, protecting, providing, and fighting. His more powerful frame and voice also contributed to making him the natural leader in relationships with women.

 

The fact that human reproduction requires one man and one woman naturally brings men and women into close relationships and family life. And because the woman carries new life, gives birth and nurses the young, she is the natural fit for responsibilities that flow from these biological realities.

 

Throughout history, proper division of labor between the sexes simply made sense. And as men and women have assumed duties consistent with these differences, they have knowingly or unknowingly harmonized with the intent of the Maker of male and female.

 

However, if these aspects of creation are our only source for understanding our purpose, other problems inevitably arise. For example, the fact that a man’s part in reproduction ends biologically at conception has allowed untold numbers of blinded men to abandon the offspring they beget. Men’s physical dominance has led many men to abuse women rather than protect them which is another example of strength spent in vain.

 

These are just a few of the many reasons of why it is so critical to also have the special revelation of Scripture, which reveals, for example, a man’s God-given responsibilities to marry, cleave to, and provide for the woman who becomes mother of his children, to actively care for and guide the offspring he begets, and to defend his wife and children from harm rather than posing a threat to them himself.

 

Today’s society, however, has also rejected the biblical revelation on this subject. Thus, for most people, God’s purposes in creating the sexes are an utter mystery. Distinctions between male and female seem arbitrary, so arbitrary, in fact, that many people have essentially come to view them as interchangeable. It is now common in society for the public to consider gender more a matter of choice than of actual biology. Society is conducting a set of radical experiments on marriage, family, gender, and sex that attempt to overturn thousands of years of tradition and true wisdom. Nothing reflects the utter confusion about why male and female like the mainstreaming of homosexuality, transgenderism, gender fluidity and related trends.

 

The consequences of this confusion are disastrous. But society, unwilling to admit this obvious reality, is accelerating in its flight from reason and good sense along with its ever growing rejection of God’s truth. You can choose a saner path.

 

Embrace Your Destiny

God made men. He authored maleness, manliness, manhood, and everything these embody. Sex is no accident. It is the product of deliberate design and intent. It is, in fact, a masterstroke of engineering with many fascinating ramifications. The great Architect of the universe created male and female for a magnificent purpose.

 

What was that purpose? God reveals it in creation itself, through the unique physical designs of men and women; and through special revelation in the pages of the Bible.

 

As you fulfill that divine purpose by studying it and fulfilling it, you will find great joy, happiness, and satisfaction. You will be a blessing to your family, to those around you, and to society. And whether or not you realize it, you will also be learning Spiritual lessons that will prepare you for eternal life!

How to Study this Topic

To fulfill any job, you must be educated in your responsibilities. The more challenging the job, the more effort you need to devote to that education, typically on an ongoing basis, continually striving to get better.

 

This is absolutely true of your job as a man and perhaps the most challenging job God gives you! You hold the office of a Christian man, the office of a friend, the office of a boyfriend or husband, the office of a father, even those of brother and son. Do you know what God expects you to do with that position? Whether or not you study it, you are responsible for fulfilling it!

 

Because of the inescapable spirit of this age, you may not feel like studying Godly manhood. Nevertheless, biblical manhood is a subject every man needs to study. Satan has ravaged manhood to the point that each of us is in danger of losing it! But God still offers you this truth!

 

If you don’t find yourself excited about it, study it anyway. Because God is excited about it. Study it and He will give you His excitement! It will even excite you lady’s as you come to understand true Godly manhood and furthermore shaping, reshaping, and/or setting that Biblical standard in your relationships of the male population (family, friends, and the most important: your life partner).

 

The things written here is an excellent start. It can kindle or stoke the fire in you. You will receive great joy and pleasure from it. You will want to consult it regularly for inspiration, guidance, correction, and precious truths on what manhood really means.

 

The information in the following posts will be organized into seven sections, built around seven distinct roles God intends a man to fulfill. Each section contains several chapters detailing specific aspects of each role. A number of short biographies are interspersed throughout of great men in the Bible who exemplified aspects of manhood worthy of aspiration and emulation.

 

You will gain a lot by reading this entire category from beginning to end; however, each post contributing to the chapters and mini-biography stands alone. Study the Table of Contents and feel free to jump to any portion that speaks to a challenge you face at the moment. If you are having trouble connecting with your teenage daughter, for example, you might want to go straight to “Be Your Daughter’s Hero.” If you are married to a woman with whom you are at odds because of your religion, read the up coming “Lead Her Spiritually,” and pay particular attention to the material after the subhead “When You Are Not Her Spiritual Head.”

 

As you study this subject of manhood and grow in understanding, it is crucial that you resist any tendency to grow discouraged. Yesterday’s mistakes are past. Have a positive approach to what God can do with you today and tomorrow. Always view those areas where you can improve as opportunities. Nourish a vision of the man God wants to help you become. Allow that vision to stir a fire within your heart, a flame of resolve, a determination to become a better man. What matters is growth “steady improvement,” however slow, however incremental. The more progress you make, the greater rewards you will reap, the more personal satisfaction you will gain, and the greater blessing you will be to all the people around you.

 

Men, we must allow God to shape us, to forge us into instruments strong enough to lead strong families, to give confidence to women, to give stability to children, and to give solidity to society.

 

This is what God wants. This is how we were created. This is literally what we were born to do: to grow up, achieve, mature, and embrace the role that our masculine minds and bodies were designed for.

 

This is the elusive solution, hiding in plain sight if your is Bible is already open; to our manless society. It’s not about getting back to the traditions of yesteryear. It’s about embracing how we were created. Discover that, live that, and you will be embarking on a life full of growth, challenge, fulfillment, and happiness built on knowing what it really means to be a man.

The Path to True Manhood

Feminists say they want equality for women. But in how they approach equality; how many of them actually want weak men? No woman applauds a man for being addicted to video games and pornography. What is honorable and worthy of admiration is the man with self-mastery, who refrains from being entrapped by such sins. We yearn for the man with self-control, with temperance, and with strong moral character.

 

A strong man is a blessing to his wife and children. He provides more than money; he provides security, attentive engagement, successful leadership, firm guidance, emotional stability, and real love defined by God.

 

Society, often without realizing it, cries out for masculinity of substance: strong character, untarnished fidelity, exemplary behavior, and empathetic yet decisive leadership. Deep down, we yearn for men with spines.

 

Society still appreciates such men, yet it teaches and pressures males to do the opposite. To grow into a real man, you must be strong enough to follow a different path.

 

Where is that path? How do you walk it? What is true masculinity? By now it should be clear that you aren’t going to find the answer on cable television, the news media, bookstores, legislatures, or universities. To know what manhood really should be, you need to look into the Holy Bible and consult the Creator of manhood.

 

Learn God’s definition of manhood. Learn your God-given duties. Understand what masculinity truly is. It’s a definition that does not change from day to day, from year to year, or even from generation to generation. It’s everything a Godly man is and everything a God woman needs in a man after God’s own heart.

 

You are living in a society that has launched a revolution and successfully overthrown biblical manhood. Most men have joined in or allowed themselves to be silently led along. You now have a choice: Will you be different? Will you live your life as a man according to the pressures of society or according to the clear commands of God?

 

Your job as a man is perhaps the most challenging job God gives you! The Bible shows that you hold an office: the office of a son, the office of a brother, the office of a husband, the office of a father, the office of a man.

 

Any man who wants to live up to God’s definition of manhood has real work to do. He must devote his energies to swimming upstream against society. He must make it his unwavering aim to grow (against pressure) in those qualities that will arm him for the rigors of true manhood. He must eschew the pastimes that weaken men. He must avoid the addictions that eat away at men’s minds, blacken their consciences and destroy their confidence. He must stoke the flames of ambition in his life. He must aim high and equip himself to become an able leader of a strong, capable woman, and a builder of family and society.

 

If you want to be one of those men, the study category here in “Manhood in the Bible” will help you in this noble, invigorating process.

 

Italian Stuff Chicken Breast’s

Ingredients

 

• 2 chicken breasts

• 1 cup whole milk ricotta cheese

• 1 egg

• Total of 3 teaspoons Italian seasoning, divided

• 2 cloves crushed garlic

• ½ teaspoon salt

• Total of 2 cups shredded mozzarella, divided

• 1 cup marinara sauce

• Additional Salt and Pepper, to taste

 

Instructions

 

1. Butterfly cut the boneless chicken breasts and place into a lightly greased baking dish.

2. In a small mixing bowl, stir together ricotta cheese, egg, 2 teaspoons Italian seasoning, garlic, salt, and 1 cup mozzarella cheese.

3. Spoon about ¼ cup of sauce onto one half of each chicken breast. Spread ricotta mixture on top of the sauce and fold chicken breasts over to close.

5. Drizzle the remaining 3/4 cup of marinara sauce over chicken. Top with the remaining last cup of mozzarella cheese. Sprinkle with the remaining 1 teaspoon of Italian seasoning and season with salt and pepper.

7. Bake in a 400 degree oven for 25-30 minutes, until chicken reaches an internal temperature of 165 degrees F.

Serves 2 to 4

Excellent to serve with a side order of any of your favorite salads.