A Royal & Holy Unification

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Dedicated to Cassandra J.H.

 

A King only becomes a King when he loves his Queen.

A Queen becomes Queen when she knows the King of all Kings.

So establish her that throne and she will make it a home.

Let her uniqueness standout and watch the Lord give her wings.

Real love isn’t found, it’s built on a real foundation.

Don’t hold her down, but elevate her coronation.

She needs to be embraced but she also needs to fly.

So don’t hold her back but paint her a beautiful sky.

There’s eagles, there’s butterflies, and even honey bees.

But there’s no limits to a daughter’s eternity.

Liberation, transformation, and dedication.

But there’s no limits to a daughter’s glorification.

Written this short awe powerful poem of a twofold picture reflecting one another.

  1. Christ and the Church.
  2. A King and a Queen.

 

 

The Friend (Ship) of Amazing Grace

“Faith and Friendship are a lot a like. They are the boat of all relationships; so if one steps in or steps out, without one or the other, drowning would be the result.”

Every time i hear her laugh it certainly takes me to another place.

Back to another time before life removed nearly all the innocence.

Anytime i see her smile it reminds me of God’s array of grace.

Appreciating the purity of God blessing me with in her friendly presence.

I’ll always be her comforter and she’ll always be my peacemaker.

She’s a ship on a pretty acre, I’m the anchor that won’t ever forsake her.

A beloved friendship is the home that no storm could ever shake or break.

And this world lost at sea could never separate what our God creates.

Precious truths shall plow the field and her mind will bloom in the eternal spring.

We’re walk by faith and perfect the work of his almighty declaration.

She’s a unique rose unto the Father but to me she’s the whole garden.

And yet both of these perceptions are one in the same association.

Life at first may be a maze but I promise I’ll be her Mr. Amazing.

Our commission helps fulfill His Glory and in his name were be praising.

Communication Builds a Marriage

The vital connection for a strong marriage.

 

A THRIVING MARRIAGE REQUIRES HONEST, OPEN, ongoing communication. These are simple but powerful principles. God tells us in Ephesians 4:15 to speak the truth -communicate- “in love.” God’s love is outgoing concern for the good and welfare of others. His communication “in love” has a profound effect.

 

LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION

 

Here we’ll look at three aspects of communication: talking, listening, and understanding.

 

The FIRST aspect of communication is talking.

 

There are different levels of quality in talking. Talking just for the sake of talking is not the same as effective, healthy, constructive communication. Good communication reveals one’s true thoughts and feelings about an action or situation. It is an open expression of what is in your mind.

 

Level 1: Cliche conversation. This is where a person hides behind the safety screen of cliches and small talk. He or she shares nothing personal. The conversation always stays on the level of “How are you” or “Looks like it is going to rain.” Level 2: Reporting facts. In this kind of conversation, information that is perhaps interesting or useful is shared, but no personal views enter into the discussion. Facts are simply quoted, much like a newsreader. Level 3: Expressing ideas and judgments. Here is where some real communication begins. The person steps out from his or her comfort zone and goes beyond just sharing facts: They also share their ideas and judgments-determinations about those facts. Level 4: Expressing feelings and emotions. Here the person begins to share genuine feelings about things. There can be no truly effective communication in marriage until both parties interact with each other on this level. Without such, neither will know how the other feels on vital issues. Level 5: Openness and honesty. This is the ultimate level; one of absolute openness and honesty. All deep relationships, especially the marriage relationship, must be based upon honest communication, otherwise the relationship will suffer.

 

SPEAK IN LOVE

 

We must also add to this God’s biblical instruction of “speaking the truth in love.” When we move our conversations beyond cliches and share not only facts but also ideas, judgments, feelings with openness, we create a world of communication that builds beauty and harmony into our relationships. We don’t want to use communication to create a world of misery. For a marriage to have beauty and harmony, the husband and wife must be committed to speak the truth in all things. Truth with love sometimes hurts, but this is part of healthy communication. Healthy communication always carries an overall positive and helpful message (Ephesians 5:25; Proverbs 10:19-10:20; 15:4, Psalms 37:30). Words can create or destroy relationships. They make life brighter or darker. They can spread a great deal of misery or joy. They can forge a chain of grief or satisfaction (Proverbs 25:11; 12:25). Words create an atmosphere of good or evil (Proverbs 17:9; Matthew 12:36-12:37; Colossians 3:8). Our communication produces either unity, harmony, and goodness; or the opposite. It either builds us up or pulls us down. God spoke to an Earth that lay in tohu and bohu which means chaos and confusion. God’s Word brought about beauty and harmony, making it “very good” (Genesis 1:31). If your marriage has a degree of chaos and confusion, then kind words can heal the problem (Ephesians 4:23, 29, 31-32; 5:2-5:4; 1 Peter 3;1-3:7). Satan’s speaking brings about wholesale misery (John 8:44). When God speaks, there is always a wonderful result (Genesis 1:27-1:28, 2:18-2:24; John 13-17). Each of us must speak the language of love in our marriages (Ephesians 5:21; 1 Corinthians 13:1-13:13). The tone of your voice is also very important “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver” (Proverbs 25:11). Some communication experts say that words compose 7 percent of the message, 38 percent is tone of voice, and 55 percent is body language. What you say is often less important than how you say it.

 

LISTEN CAREFULLY

 

The SECOND aspect of communication is listening.

 

James 1:19 states, “Let every man be swift to hear…” (See also Proverbs 1:5; 19:20; and 25:12). In a troubled marriage a ready listener is often lacking. Here are three areas that interfere with effective listening: DEFENSIVENESS: You are not listening when you are busy thinking of ways to shoot down the other person’s comments or thinking of all the reasons why you are right. SELF-CENTEREDNESS: You are not listening when you are talking, interrupting, being impatient, or being intolerant toward the other person. PHYSICAL OR MENTAL FATIGUE: You are not listening when you are tired. This certainly can dull your ability and desire to listen.

 

The challenge is to listen not only to the words but also to the feelings and meaning behind the words. If a person feel understood, then he or she will be less defensive and more receptive.

 

UNDERSTANDING YOUR PARTNER

 

The THIRD aspect of communication is understanding.

 

Seek always to understand your partner. Communication or the lack thereof is a matter of cause and effect. All behavior has a cause. “God made humans to be free moral agents,” He set in motion His inexorable law, which, if obeyed, causes peace, blessings, abundance; but which, when disobeyed, causes curses. He compels humans to choose. Each must make his or her own choice; either positively or by neglect. God has made His truth available! God expects you to grow in your marriage by using the vital tool of communication. If we all work on this regardless of how long we have been married, our unity with our spouses and quality of our marriages will grow stronger.

 

At all times: let’s talk, listen, and understand in a way that builds beauty, unity, and strength in our marriages. If we do, we will be developing the divine righteous character of God in preparation for the ultimate Spiritual marriage of Jesus Christ to the one and only true Church.

Powerful Ways to Think More like God

This simple, potent formula will purify and elevate your mindset.

 

GOD’S THOUGHTS ARE HIGHER THAN OUR THOUGHTS (Isaiah 55:8-55:9). He is flawless in character, limitless in wisdom and knowledge, and balanced in judgment and mercy. He created human beings to think like Him; to grow in character, wisdom and knowledge, judgment (understanding cause and effect) and mercy. We must learn to think more like our Father.

 

Here is a biblical formula to help you think like God: “Seek good, and not evil, that ye may live: and so the LORD, the God of hosts, shall be with you, as ye have spoken, HATE THE EVIL, and LOVE THE GOOD…” (Amos 5:14-5:15).

 

How simple. But learning to think like God in a world ruled by the devil isn’t easy. It means striving each day, each moment, to evaluate our choices, words and thoughts by this formula: hate evil, love good.

 

Satan and his society love evil and hate good. The devil broadcasts this attitude into our minds (Ephesians 2:2), and even ministers who once served God can begin to “hate the good, and love the evil” (Micah 3:2). We can all fall into this trap. The entire lesson of the two trees is that we can only tell what is good and what is evil if God shows us. But once God shows you, you must feel deeply and act decisively!

 

“Ye that love the LORD, HATE EVIL…” (Psalm 97:10). “Through thy precepts I get understanding: therefore I HATE every false way” (Psalm 119:104). To learn what God hates, study His law (verses 128, 162-163).

 

Amos prophesied that in the modern era, even people in God’s own Church would be “at ease in Zion,” lacking urgency and glutted on luxury (Amos 6:1-6:5). He condemned them for not being “GRIEVED for the affliction of Joseph” (which is modern day United States and modern day England). God said, “I ABHOR the excellency of Jacob, and HATE his palaces” (verse 48). “What societies highly esteems, God ABHORS! That is a STRONG STATEMENT! What Israel exalts, GOD HATES! “Amos Had God’s view” HATRED OF EVIL MOTIVATED THIS GODLY PROPHET. If we are going to be motivated to dispense God’s message, we are going to have to hate what God hates! We must hate what is happening in Israel and to Israel which also includes the American society. We must hate how people are defaming God… When i read those words (in verse 8), I know i don’t hate this world as God does.”

 

Living in Sodom, righteous Lot was surrounded by evil = pride, gluttony, excess, idleness, haughtiness, sexual perversion (Ezekiel 16:49-16:50, Jude 7)- Just as we are today. The Apostle peter commended Lot for being “greatly distressed by the licentiousness (unbridled lust, shamelessness)” around him, and said he was “vexed (tormented) in his righteous soul day after day with their lawless deeds” (2 Peter 2:7-2:8).

 

Could God say the same about you? The more you think like God, the more repulsed by this world and grieved by its sins you will be! The more motivated to have your sin purged. And the the more urgently you will pray daily, “THY KINGDOM COME!” With wickedness so common, it is hard to really hate it as we should. Lot’s sons-in-law thought Lot was joking when he said they needed to escape (Genesis 19:14). Even Lot himself lingered when God tried to get him out! (verse 16). This almost cost him his life!

 

Christ said, “Remember Lot’s wife” (Luke 17:32). He said a time is coming when we will have to flee this sinful society (shortly right before the 2 & ½ years of tribulation begins) just as Lot and his family did (which was a small forerunner to the larger future event). When it comes, don’t make the mistake she did! “Lot’s wife looked back at Sodom and was turned to a pillar of salt. She still yearned for the sodomite lifestyle.” She left a powerful warning for God’s very elect today. THIS EVIL WORLD MUST HAVE NO APPEAL FOR US. OUR DESIRE MUST BE FOCUSED ON AND LOOKING FORWARD TO GETTING OUT OF SODOM. We must have the desire to flee. This world is a sinking ship. We must get our minds off worldly ways and onto the commission God has given us. There should be nothing evil, in this evil world, that we want. WE SHOULD ONLY WANT TO FINISH OUR COMMISSION, SO WE CAN HELP CREATE A FUTURE NEW WORLD WITH GOD!

 

Once you have escaped the world’s pollutions, don’t go back! (2 Peter 2:20-2:22). Keep your mind clean and pure. This world is about to die. Live the way of tomorrow’s world which is the Coming Kingdom of God! Don’t be conformed to this world, be transformed by the renewing of God’s Spirit (Romans 12:2). Fix your mind on what is Good and Godly. “ABHOR (detest utterly) that which is evil; CLEAVE to that which is good” (Verse 9).

 

“Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good” (verse 21). If you are careless, evil will overcome you. But you can overcome it WITH GOOD! Fill your mind with the law and ways of God. Think on what is true, honest, just, pure, lovely, and of good report-things of virtue and praise (Philippians 4:8). Submit yourself to God’s influence and learn to LOVE what God loves!

 

“He that will love life, and see good days… Let him eschew evil, and do good…” (1 Peter 3:10-3:11; see also Psalm 34:12-34:16 and Psalm 37:27-37:29). What a marvelous formula for learning to think like God!

 

P.S. It takes real obedience unto the Heavenly Father to wait and to move. When you do either under his direction, you won’t ever want to look back because of your faith in knowing that He is moving mountains especially for you.

 

Go After Your Weaknesses

To be a Godly man, you must go after your weaknesses and be serious about it. Ask God for help to bury the old man (Romans 6:6). We must be continually, actively casting off corruption and putting on God’s righteousness and true holiness (Ephesians 4:22-24).

 

“Our problems always try to come back, but to be an overcomer God instructs us to destroy that old man so completely that he doesn’t have the will nor the way to come back! If you deal with a problem lightly and return to your business, it will come right back. You will be dealing with the same problems year after year!” He encourages us to fight our problems systematically.

 

Mastering your problems requires contending in battle (2 Timothy 2:3-2:5). Ask God for strength in this fight. He wants you to seek Him for help. In His hand is power and might, and He can provide real strength (1 Chronicles 29:12). If you face your struggles with God, you will emerge a stronger man on the other side.

 

Perhaps you are well aware of some areas you need to change in order to achieve real purity of heart. After all, Satan has marshaled his best efforts to shape society in such a way as to destroy men, and many of his weapons are quite obvious.

 

“What is your greatest enemy? How much do you think about that?” Here is a checklist to start with that’s worth contemplating: “Is it laziness? Or lust? Resistance to government? Discouragement? Do you have to battle selfishness? Or an inferiority complex? How about intellectual vanity? Or all of the above?” Every one of these represents a problem that must be dealt with forcibly. And there are many more such sins and weaknesses, areas that need to change, many of which we cannot even recognize fully without God’s help.

 

The following chapters focus on one sin, not uncommon among a majority of men, and how to overcome it: the sin of pornography. Consider this instruction emblematic of the process of purifying the heart that must take place no matter what the sin may be.

Purify You’re Heart

Within every man lies a human heart: that unknown to mankind is the subconscious and it helps make up one half of your mind, the subconscious is deceitful and desperately wicked (Jeremiah 17:9). It is your responsibility each day to solicit God’s aid in circumcising that heart and daily submit to God so He will create in you a new, clean heart (Psalm 51:10).

 

“Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with ALL thy heart,” Christ says (Matthew 22:37). This is His command. You shall hold nothing back.

 

What is the state of your heart? Where is it divided? Where are there shadows? What are your areas of weakness?

 

A Godly man is the genuine article. He lives with singleness of heart allowing his subconscious = (the heart) and the conscious = (the spirit in man) to commune with each other in unity as one, striving diligently to think with integrity and to live in harmony with how he speaks. Singleness of heart and purity of the spirit in man means mastery of your mind. It is a heart chosen to be uncluttered with the things of the world, uncomplicated by the lusts of the flesh. To achieve such a state takes real diligence and effort, and can only be truly achieved by yielding to God.

 

King David kept that first and great commandment perhaps better than any human except Jesus Christ. His psalms enable us to scrutinize the most intimate details of his relationship with God and to emulate them.

 

“O God, thou art my God, I yearn for thee, body and soul, I thirst, I long for thee, like a land without water, weary, dry. … Thy love is more than life to me …” (Psalm 63:1, 3;). How did David achieve such an unnatural craving, such heartfelt, and Christ-like sincerity in the spirit in man that is his innermost being?

 

Such love is shed abroad in a human heart by the Holy Spirit, which is a gift from God (Romans 5:5). Once receiving that Spirit upon repentance and baptism, we maintain its flow and influence in our lives by (acquiring action through choice) submitting ourselves wholly to God, moment by moment. This requires training your heart. With diligence, vigor, and strength.

 

David trained his heart like a great general trains a soldier, demanding constant exercise to run it in its proper course. That is the only way to train something so unruly as a human heart.

 

Report for Duty

As a Christian father, you must remain alert as long as your children are under your authority. Even after they leave the home, you may still be able to, and should, exert regular positive influence, even with your grandchildren (Deuteronomy 4:9).

 

As for you single’s, you are training for that duty right now by 1. learning to pay attention to others, 2. by learning how to treat women and children with honor, 3. by dating honorably and learning to be attentive to the needs of single ladies, 4. by striving to serve the widows (elders) and the fatherless (elders). These responsibilities also remain after you marry. Remember open your eyes by anointing them.

 

In your conversations, look for needs. Ask about things you can help with or you can find someone else to help with. Find things you can pray about. Pay attention!

 

Here is a specific example of masculine leadership that arises regularly in a family: telling your children what to do. An engaged Christian father regularly issues instructions as he actively directs his children to do things that will benefit them and others. But it only starts there.

 

Once you tell your child to do something, you must then pay attention to the child’s attitude toward that instruction, and then to his or her performance. You cannot simply give an instruction, return to what you were doing and forget what you said. Children, particularly if untrained, will often test the limits of your authority. If you give some direction and then return your full attention to what you were doing before, you are training your child not to be overly concerned about your commands. The child you just told to stop racing his car on the coffee table will go right back to it.

 

Once you give a command, remain on duty. Ensure the child follows through. This must be the case at home, in public, at Church services, everywhere. You simply cannot expect good results if you lose track of what you have instructed your child to do and fail to make sure the lesson sticks.

 

The duties of a man are constant. They require vigilance. They require you to work the works of Him that sent you, while you can. Be urgent. Recognize the onrushing river of opportunities for what it is. Seize each one and let God’s influence come into other people’s lives through you. Express dynamic male leadership. Put Godly manhood into action!

 

God can do so much in your life through your manly role. He can make your home life enriching and wonderful. He can grant you a promotion at work. He can add purpose, spark, and joy to the lives of the people around you. He can cause your girlfriend or wife to blossom emotionally, intellectually, spiritually. He can nourish your children or grandchildren into joyful, wise, and enjoyable young people. He can make you a different man, your family a different family, and your work a different work!

 

But you must anoint your eyes. See where God wants to lead you, what He wants to make of you, and how He wants to bless others through you!

 

See Opportunities And Seize Them

Anoint your eyes, and you will see opportunities to express Godly manhood all around you.

 

Consider Christ’s own example, which defines biblical manhood. Here is His perspective: “I must work the works of him that sent me, while it is day: the night cometh, when no man can work” (John 9:4). Christ’s life was short, limited in duration. He was urgent about taking full advantage of every moment and every interaction.

 

This is the unselfish attitude Godly men must have: a vigilant urgency to take action and to work at serving others. You have to pay attention to other people’s lives, and act on what you see and know.

 

You may look at tomorrow as just another routine day: Snag breakfast, endure the workday, unwind at home, watch a show, go to sleep. But Christ in you looks at tomorrow as a deluge of opportunities: What can I do? Who can I help? How much can I give?

 

Don’t underestimate the potential value of every decision, every encounter, every conversation you have. Recognize opportunities to give for what they are. You’ll probably have one as soon as you finish reading this.

 

To follow Christ’s example and seize that opportunity, you must fight the pull of selfishness and relaxation, and keep your eyes open to opportunities to fulfill your duties as a man!

 

The question is not whether you have a duty to serve others more than yourself. The question is whether you will fulfill your duty. The more you do, the more God-like you will become, and the more habitual this Christ-like attitude will be. The more Christ-like you become, and the more masculine you become.

 

Many of us intellectually understand and agree with the concept of male Christian leadership. But the harder step is to encounter a day-to-day routine occurrence and actively recognize: I need to use this moment right now to express Godly manhood! The same applies to females who want to fully utilize and express Godly womanhood.

 

It is easy to overlook those opportunities. It is also easy to underestimate the effect that YOU, reading these words right now, can have on other people’s lives. 

 

Correcting the matter starts with anointing your eyes. Ask God to show you how to develop into a more dynamic and effective Christian leader.

 

A torrent of opportunities is coming at you. Helping your son with his math homework, approving your daughter’s new dress before she wears it, setting a household rule to unburden your girlfriend or wife, helping your neighbor fix his porch step, knocking out the reports nobody else wants to do at work, holding the door open for the mother of two children at the gas station, skipping the pro football game to visit an elderly member in your congregation, putting your phone away so you’re not distracted when playing with your children, noting something troubling in your teenager’s voice inflection and asking him or her about it, setting rules so dinner time can be quality family time, choosing a topic to lead in conversation after Church services. The deluge of opportunity never ends. And Christ wants to empower you to fulfill those opportunities.

 

But before He can do so, you must be diligent enough to spot them for what they are.